We are privileged as wedding planners to work with couples during one of the most important times of their life together. Planning a destination wedding in Cabo San Lucas is a long and involved process, and so there are innumerable phone calls and emails back and forth, plus site visits, sit-down meetings, introductions to vendors, and so on. And so by the end of the process, which is of course the wedding day, we have become close to these couples. Emotionally invested. We get to know them as people and want nothing more for them than to have their fairy tale ending and live happily ever after.
But happily ever after is harder than it looks. Always. We were reminded of this recently when we saw an article in Style Me Pretty about a couple, Brian and Tabitha, whose dream wedding in Cabo we had helped to plan. The story detailed all the adversity they were forced to overcome during the first eight years of their marriage–to quote Tabitha: “Death, sickness, financial stress, infertility, job changes, life changes…”–but how ultimately these hardships had made them stronger, and made them love each other even more. They returned to Cabo this year for their anniversary, not only because the place remains special to them, but also because the vows they made to each other back in 2011 made their lives in 2019 possible.
It was a moving story, and it inspired us to think about our future brides and grooms in terms of the challenges they’ll inevitably face during the years to come. What are the lessons they can take from their wedding day that will help them grow stronger together during all the days that follow?
We thought of three major lessons, and if any of our former clients read this, we hope they chime in with thoughts of their own.
Handle Unexpected Challenges with Poise and Grace
Planning a wedding is a long process–at least a year for most couples–and during this time there will be plenty of decisions to make. You won’t always agree with each other on everything, but you’ll ultimately find solutions that work.
You’ll also have to find solutions, with the help of your wedding planners of course, when the unexpected happens, either in the lead-up to your nuptials, or on the big day itself. And unexpected things will happen, because that’s life. Unexpected things always happen. It’s inevitable.
But while you can’t predict the unexpected, you can overcome it most easily by keeping your cool, by not panicking, by taking as many steps as possible to be prepared, while still understanding that you can’t prepare for every eventuality. Handle that hardships and challenges that arise in life with poise and dignity and grace, just as you will on your wedding day in your formal best.
Consider your destination wedding in Cabo a dream come true, but also a walkthrough for the rest of your life.
Lean on Family & Friends
Nothing is more powerful than the love you have for each other, but you don’t have to try to deal with every hardship or challenge alone. All the family and friends that gladly flew a thousand miles or more to be at your destination wedding in Cabo will still be there for you when you return home. These are the people in your life that have your trust, either by familial relationship or through long experience. Lean on them when you have to, and be there for them when they need a helping hand, or a shoulder to cry on.
When you really think about it, that’s why weddings exist in the first place; not just a “destination wedding in Cabo”, but any planned wedding. If you want to elope you can go down to city hall and get married by the Justice of the Peace. There’s no planning necessary.
Planned weddings have a lot of moving parts because there are guests, because people are there to bear witness to your commitment to each other. Traditionally, a wedding unites not just the bride and groom, but two families. Your families and the friends you now share in common are your support network. Don’t be afraid to use that network.
Stay True to Your Vows, Stay Strong for Each Other
This was a big lesson for Brian and Tabitha that we think applies to all couples. The words you say on your wedding day mean something, which is why every bride and groom feels the import of them as soon as they are spoken. “For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health…” That’s a lifelong promise and commitment. You can’t un-speak those words when bad things happen. You honor them “until death do you part.”
You can lean on friends and family when you need to, but most of all you’ll be leaning on each other. It’s your love for each other that will enable you to overcome any hardship or loss. As long as you stay connected and committed, there is nothing you can’t deal with, however difficult. Remember the old saying: “Tough times don’t last. Tough people do.”
It’s your love for each other that allows you to stay strong, stay tough, and withstand any adversity. Care for each other always, say “I love you” each day with the same heartfelt devotion as you did on the day of your Cabo destination wedding.
Nobody ever said happily ever after was going to be easy. You have to work for it.
About Creative Destination Events
CDE is the premier full-service planning and production company in Cabo San Lucas, and there’s nothing our talented team likes more than working with couples to plan and execute their destination wedding in Cabo. Our process at CDE starts with a one-on-one conversation in which your dedicated planner will tease out your vision for the perfect wedding. From there, we’ll start the transition from vision to reality by means of timelines, digital renderings and three-dimensional floorplans, before finally helping you pull off the biggest moment of your life with smooth precision and seamless production. Call us today at (619) 819-9180 for an initial consultation.